This was her obituary notice in
The Dothan Eagle:
Philis Barfield Beal, a resident of Dothan, passed away on Sunday, March 30, 2008, at Dale Medical Center after an extended illness. She was 56.
Graveside memorial services will be held at 4 p.m. today at the Sunset Memorial Park Pavilion with the Rev. Billy Gant officiating and Robert Byrd of Sunset Funeral Home directing. The family will receive friends following the services.
Mrs. Beal was born on Jan. 26, 1952, in Houston County and lived in Dothan most of her life. She was a 1971 graduate of Dothan High School and was employed with SouthTrust Bank as a data processor. She was a member of Berean Baptist Church.
Survivors include her mother, Anne Barfield of Dothan; sisters, Alice L. Yoakam and her husband, Anthony of Dothan, Janice Nelson and her husband, J.W. of Dothan; nieces and nephews, Kelly Nelson, Christy Nelson, Steven Nelson, David Beckworth, Mark Beckworth and Andrew Beckworth.
Robert Byrd of Sunset Memorial Park Funeral Home and Crematory LLC of Dothan, is in charge of arrangements. For complete up-to-date information please visit Sunset Memorial Park or call (334) 983-6604. Sign the guest book at www.dothaneagle.com.
That was it. She did work at Southtrust Bank way back in the early seventies...she was a kepuncher. Her mental problems didn't let her work after that. I married her the first time in '78 and she was already on disability. That church thing sucked too. She might have been technically a member there way back, but the last church she went to was Dothan First Assembly with me in the eighties, where we both sang in the choir; back when Paul Estes was the preacher there, and Billy Gant was Youth Minister or something. Man, I wish I knew how to get some VHS video uploaded onto here... of us in costume singing at Christmas and Easter.
Now, ain't that a helluva hoot!? Narry a mention of me. 'Course the guestbook is long closed now, but last time I looked, only TWO people had signed it and one of them was me. Not a one of her three husbands she had before me, not her boyfriend, not her sisters or her mother. Just a neighbor lady.
Usually I ain't one to get riled by such as that, but that really pissed me off and hurt my feelings too... for both me AND Philis. I went to the Eagle's guestbook and stuck this in there:
Anne, Janice, Alice, and the rest of the family: Words do not exist to express the horror and profound pain and emptiness of such a loss. I always loved Philis more than I could ever express and I will as long as my brain fuctions. The other family member - Temy - her husband forever. Temy Beal (LaGrange, GA)
No body else gave a crap, but it made me feel a tad better.
Last I heard, her sisters, Janice and Alice, weren't speaking. I thought that whole thing was really wacked... married the woman twice, spent 26 years of my life with her and then when she died, she never had made any arrangements for me to get the house and lot, so I reckon Alice got it. Twenty-six years of blood, sweat and tears, and I got zip and nobody bothered to even tell me she was dead for ten days. That whole half of my life went poof, just as if it never was. So, yeah, Philis died and we were really connected, so a lot of me went too. That's the kind of thing that had Bill making Hamlet wonder whether to be or not. Luckily for me, I already had another wife by then, though. (There was a girlfriend in there too, but that's a whole other barrel of Medussas.)
Soon as I can get all the pictures scanned in, I plan to run a slide show here about Philis. Here's Philis's Obituary at Sunset (take the photo tour, it's pretty - Philis is near the roses), and that pic is from high school... same one that's on her gravestone.